Happy International Women’s Day, everyone! (or belated Women’s Day, depending on the time zone)
Biphobia against men and biphobia against women is actually quite different. There is overlap sure, but how we are treated is very heavility influenced by misogyny, which causes a disparity. For example, bisexual men are told when they come out that they are “confused” and that it’s just a stepping stone to coming out as gay, whereas bi women are told that they are really just straight and “doing it for attention”. The “fake bisexual” trope is overwhelmingly aimed at girls who are also deemed to be “letting the community down” for being “sexually available to men”. Bi women are assumed to have a motive of titilating men by exploiting other women, which is essentially blaming them for their own fetishisiation.
While bi men are erased in the media, bi women are portrayed as deviant sex toys, again for cis male consumption, until they are either killed off or get over their “phase”. While bi men are seen as inconcievable because male sexuality is percieved as fixed, bi women have their identities invalidated because women’s sexuality is percieved as fluid, because “how could they be satisfied with just women?”
Straight men also covet sexually being with two women, but are disgusted by the idea of being with two men. People keep writing articles about how this translates to more acceptance for bi women, as if men feeling entitled to threesomes and sexually objectifying bi women was a privilege, and that is is why we should not push for better representation of bi women. It is not.
Bi women are also statistically the group most targeted for sexual assault and domestic violence, which judging by the testimony of survivors is down to perceptions of them being promiscious and constantly sexually available, which in turn is used to silence and victim blame them. Due to stereotypes of the “hysterical bi women” they are also one of the most discrimated groups in the mental health industry, with even supossedly lgbt-friendly professionals telling them that their bisexuality is a symptom of their “need for attention”.
Bi men are also never told that “women don’t count” when they are asked to list their sexual history, if they are asked at all. The image that biphobes often use to dismiss bisexuality is 9/10 the image of a young, obnoxious, teenage girl, again something that is assumed she will grow out of and is only adopting because “it’s cool” and wants to attract men with.
Those are just a few examples. I think it is important to have a dialouge about differences in how bisexuals are treated, often this intersection is subsummed under the catch all “biphobia” which can be erasive to bi women trying to unpack their oppression, so for me sapphobia to describe this specific oppression could be very handy.
History Meme - (2/9) Queens
Elizabeth I (1533-1603)
Elizabeth’s life was troubled from the moment she was born. Henry VIII had changed the course of his country’s history in order to marry Anne Boleyn, hoping that she would bear him the strong and healthy son that Catherine of Aragon never did. But, on September 7, 1533 in Greenwich Palace, Anne bore Elizabeth instead. [x]
Her 45-year reign is generally considered one of the most glorious in English history. During it a secure Church of England was established. Its doctrines were laid down in the 39 Articles of 1563, a compromise between Roman Catholicism and Protestantism. [x]
This is the most fucking awesome version he could’ve come up with. Do yourselves a favour, turn on the volume and trip out!!!!
i remember this struggle like it was yesterday
these kids now a days don’t understand
Hannibal + Scenery [Part 1]
This is you. This is where all your thoughts are kept. Every other part of your body is used to protect and sustain this.
I want to cry
it’s weirdly comforting to know that all of the meaningless bullshit society judges me on is just a meatsuit made to support the terrifying tentacle beast that is my true form
THAT LAST COMMENT. BAM.